what a topic in the middle of summers heat and sunny days!
Yet I feel called to the theme of death alot lately, not only in my own inner and contemplations but also through friends, familiy and my own memories.
Death always is a part of life, withering and passing begins in the midst of the year and the full power of the sun and nature, the leaving of outer light and warmth is already in progress in summers noon.
Transformations and transitions are closely related to death and happen frequently throughout the year and also in our life – the change of seasons, our yearly birthday, our stations in life like leaving of school, moving out of our parents house, job occupations and changes here, a marriage or other longer relationship and the end of it, the loss of friendships, the leaving of other persons in our life, the passing of people or animals we love and care for alot. It will always be challenging for the living, yet also always is a great teacher, all of this.
We have all experienced this numerous times before, and will experience it again.
This is certain, if nothing else is. Change, loss and transitions are things that are certain and reliable.
Does this sound macabre to you?
It is not.
Feel deeply into this for a moment, and you might sense a release in it too,
and peace. Nothing ever stays the same, not the nice and good and beloved things, not the unpleasant, terrible and unbearable things. All this will end, all this will change and become something else, and so will you and everything and everyone in your life.
Change and death are truly dependable and also never selective and judging, as they treat all the same. They are one great force of creation and god that show equality and mercy and so grace to all life just the same.
Fear arises because we are insecure and scared of change, and because we are not willing to trust our creator and dive into the unknown. But the unknown awaits us each moment, if we think about it. There never is a guarantee or security for a certain development or outcome, nor for the reactions and actions of others. And the unknown comes with us each night as we go to sleep, and awakes with us each morning. We never know what the night will bring, or the next day. It is not controllable, and will never be.
Death is our greatest master in life, and dying is the greatest experience we can make.
One day, we will pass, to the other side. Until then, we can keep fearing, ignoring, running from the death; we can fight it, try to control it, condemn and judge it, humour it: It does not change a thing.
We also can make friends with it. We can welcome all the smaller and bigger deaths
while we are alive, our changes, losses, and transitons. We can walk through our lifes challenges and transformations with grace and gratitude, no matter how painful and exhausting at times. We can celebrate the sun and the summers high and still already welcome the fall and winter and realize the dying light in the midst of summer.
This way, we are in full contact with life and all its splendour and power and still hold
fast to the other side of it: the dark, the moon, the doom, the withering and death.
And when death knocks at our bedstead one day we can welcome him like an old
friend, willingly take his hand and leave gracefully. And when a friend or family member is dying, we can rest by their side in peace and love and trust and gift them this grace by reaching brother deaths hand for our dying one, and connect them as friends too.
This not only gives the dying a peaceful passage home and lights up their soul,
it has the same effect on us and the whole world.
WILL YOU BECOME DEATHS FRIEND AS WELL?
I thank you so much for listening and caring about this truly crucial theme.